THE IP MAG

Hi, I'm Sam , I got a random message on Instagram one day, after exchanging pleasantries, the person asked "can we be friends?" My first instinct was to just answer "yes" because not only did I feel that was the correct answer in that moment but also because I didn't want to keep going back and forth, but something got triggered in me immediately I saw the message and not in a bad way. I've always answered "yes" to these kinds of questions and we usually do not end up being friends but I asked what if this one is different, so I genuinely wanted to know why he thought we could be friends or what about me made me seem like someone who would make a good friend because I am certain this person does not know me beyond whatever I have displayed on my profile. My social media accounts are very much curated and I had to be intentional about making it that way. I wasn't a good friend until a few years ago, I had to learn how to be inte...

Hi, I'm Sam, When you wake up in the morning, what do you think about? Do you remember the anxiety you put on hold to catch some shut-eye or do you bring new ones to the surface and spend sometime patting yourself on the back as to how creative you are giving life and power to something that shouldn't have as much hold over you as it does? Experience has made it abundantly clear that it is pointless crying over spilt milk; wasting time crying and analyzing why the milk spilt or what you could've done differently never puts the milk back into the carton. Every little thing eventually makes something big, your patience to place those little pieces at the appropriate position and the extra patience to bring pieces down just to fix or replace a piece that is not exactly as it should be sets you apart in so many distinct ways. The time and effort that goes into taking the right steps, picking the rights pieces, knowing when and where to place each piece while being t...

Hi, I'm Sam, I took a step back and it was completely unintentional and the realization was as a result of a simple statement " So you've started lying to me sha...." the statement hit me but not necessarily in a bad way, if anything, it made me realize how simple yet weighty my regular actions can be even when I don't realize it. I will always strive for and encourage authenticity and I am very proud to say that being truthful is a major part of my authentic living and honestly it wasn't something I planned to do. I just focused on living authentically and it happened that being truthful is part of my authentic self. Its very possible to not put so much thought to how much our words mean to our everyday people, it doesn't translate to not putting value to those people, it can mean that you're comfortable around then, your walls are down, you really don't see the point in being calculating around them and you have the full length freedo...