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DUE RESPECT

Hi, I’m Sam,

Everyone deserves respect! Your first instinct as a human interacting with another human should be to give respect and sometimes even in the face of disrespect, still show respect. Showing respect says more about you than the person receiving the respect. Most times it places you at a level where even your words can't place you. Show respect to the extent that even someone who can't stand you cannot deny the fact that you respect everyone.


I love to see the instant respect we give to military men in Nigeria. Sometimes that respect comes from the fear of what they're capable of doing but in most cases, the respect comes from the place of their selfless decision to serve others and not get personally recognized for it. No one enters the military with the intent of getting famous or wealthy; so I agree that going into the military is a selfless act just like a lot of other selfless acts people do. They are mostly rewarded in groups or post-humously; you hear the president thanking "The Military" for their service and not calling their names one after the other. Most of them are always on the front line fighting to make our countries safe and give the citizens peace of mind to go about their daily lives.


You must respect who you love but you mustn’t love who you respect; when you respect people outside of your circle, you are not doing it because you love them but because it is a decent thing to do. Your actions towards people begin with you and end with the receiver; you are not the one to decide if someone is respected or not; so as you think you are giving respect, always try to pay attention to the feedback you are getting; the feedback can take any form, it may be verbal or it may be a gesture. Simply pay close attention but do not focus solely on the attention that your actions no longer stay genuine.

 

It is a decent thing to respect people no matter what level they occupy in the society. The respect given to someone who seems “lower” than you says more about you than the one given to someone “higher”. Most times the respect given to someone higher can be misconstrued as “Kiss Ass” or being a sycophant. But if you are someone known to be respectful, you cannot be labeled as a Kiss-ass or sycophant. There is this quote I heard quite often in the past, “If you cannot respect Age, respect Grace” and this is always applied in a situation where someone higher than you is younger than you. I think there is a rise in the application of this with the widespread of Tech Founders and CEOs because most of them are in their 20s and because of their early success end up hiring men and women old enough to be their parents. If you cannot respect them because you feel they are of the same age as your son, daughter, junior brother, or sister then you will have to respect them because they are your boss and they sign your paycheck.


Respect is Reciprocal; but don’t expect it in every scenario. I don’t subscribe to the cultural thing where older people deserve respect from younger ones without the need to reciprocate it. As much as I don’t agree with that, people are different. There are no two humans that are the same and that also applies to identical twins, there is always something that differentiates one from the other and that is why you cannot expect people to act the same. This is why I think we should respect everyone even when they do not seem to reciprocate it. This is not me saying anyone should condone disrespect but in a situation where you cannot remove yourself, you cannot give disrespect for disrespect and expect anything good to come out of it,

 

 

“Never be so kind, you forget to be clever, never be so clever, you forget to be kind” 



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