Hi, I’m Sam
I’ve learned to live freely not nonchalantly, I don’t stress
over anything; I strive to experience peace in every situation around me and at
any stage. That is the best thing that can happen to anyone; Living in Christ.
You don’t get to stress if a deal falls through, you don’t stress when you are
in a tough position, you generally don’t stress about anything because deep
down you have every belief that someone capable is handling things on your
behalf then you let go of things that are not vital; things that take away your
peace of mind. The good news is that the really good things in our lives are
not heavy, so we can accommodate so much of it and thrive at the same time.
When I say I don’t stress about things, I don’t mean that I don’t care about
things or that I don’t work hard for the things I want. I work smart and hard
for things but it doesn’t mean I should make it a life-or-death issue and go
against my beliefs and ethics just to get them.
In a lot of situations, we can only speak for ourselves as
to how we can respond to situations or make decisions as to the outcome of
things, but we don’t go through life all alone; which means there is always a
chance that we cannot always predict the outcome and that is where Acceptance
comes in. The Acceptance that I’m referring to comes in when you know deep down
that you’ve done everything within your power, morals, ethics, and ability to
get something to happen a certain way and when it doesn’t happen as you have
envisioned, you just have no other option other than to accept it as it is.
It's either you’re going to learn something tangible for that outcome or it's
ultimately going to stir you in the right direction. Acceptance is also
acknowledging that certain things are outside of your control no matter what
you do or who you know; instead of calling in favors, blackmailing, or breaking
codes, you could just take deep breaths, slow down, think, and accept things as
they are. Sometimes the best course of action is to let things play out and try
your very best, no matter how hard it may seem not to interfere.
In other situations, we may also find it difficult to even
speak for ourselves; we mean to do one thing but some kind of pressure makes us
do something else, or the point we find ourselves making the wrong decision in
a split second and it automatically defines who we are in the presence of
others. Self-discipline is one of the
major attributes that will always help us bet on ourselves no matter the
situation we find ourselves in. Acceptance is not only limited to situations,
it involves emotions as well. Sometimes you find yourself in an emotional state
of confusion where you find it difficult to put your emotions into words, more
especially when the emotions are so uncomfortable that you just want to snap
yourself out of it but nothing seems to work. Try accepting those emotions,
sometimes the best and easiest way to get over an emotion is to feel those
emotions, and getting yourself to feel those emotions means accepting those
emotions. It’s not always easy or even comfortable to do any of that but it’s
something you have to do for yourself and your sanity. Doing something about a
situation changes the outcome of the situation, having a meticulous plan also
changes the outcome of a situation, and letting go and accepting something in
the best way changes the outcome of a situation
One of the things I have had to come to accept this year is
that no matter how hard we try not to be cringe or find ourselves in cringe
situations we will still be cringe or find ourselves in cringe situations. And
that is because we are humans and being cringe is part of being human; I cannot
begin to tell you what being cringe has stopped me from doing. Cringe comes in waves;
times we think we don’t want it, times we do not want it and times we might not
want it. Even if you don’t cringe in the present, there is every chance that
you will look back at your life and cringe retrospectively because there is
probably a fashion item you are wearing now that will be cringe to you in the
future or a hairstyle or phrase you currently use. The simple fact that you
cannot actively avoid or run away from being cringe should not stop you from
doing certain things, especially anything that makes you genuinely happy or
anything that concerns having a fulfilling career and inspiring people.
Acceptance doesn't always have to mean giving up or throwing
in the towel. In some situations, accepting something is the bravest thing to
do. I will have some phases at times in my life but after looking at the whole
situation and thinking deeply and thoroughly, I just let go and things always
sort themselves out.
Learn to let go of what does not ask to be held – Zahra