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NEVER AGAIN!

Hi, I’m Sam,

 

I like to think that I’m a nice guy and I think I’m also a people pleaser; I’m beginning to learn not to displease myself to please other people. All was good until I nearly choked to death and still didn’t complain because I was trying to be a nice person.

 


A few weeks back, I was sick and I went to the hospital, did tests, and was placed on a morning and night routine medication. I was asked to take one of the medicines 30 minutes before eating and the other one 20 – 30 minutes after eating because I would probably throw up if I took them so close to eating. I always try my best to be a good patient because firstly I’m an adult and I don’t need anyone to beg me to take my medicine I want to get better and secondly, I live alone and will not like to get worse at night when I’m alone.

 

3 days into taking my medicine judiciously, I came home from work that day and realized I didn’t have any food at home, I also forgot to order something and I needed to eat something before and after my medicine; I decided to step out to look for something to eat because I didn’t want to skip taking the medicine that night. I strolled a little and stumbled on a “restaurant”, I wanted to eat swallow, so I asked for what they had. They had my favorite soup, Egusi soup, but didn’t have garri and I don’t eat any other swallow except garri; so there goes my swallow craving. Then I asked for jollof rice.

 

10mins later, she walked up to me with a plate of jollof rice, dropped it on the table before me, and asked me if I wanted anything else, I answered “No” and she left. I took a closer look at the food and realized it was a warmed plate of stale jollof. I didn’t know exactly how to react or what to say, I didn’t want to seem rude and I’ve never sent food back before, I just shut up and eat whatever I’m given as though I don’t have to pay for it with my own money.

 

I couldn’t call her back to take the food because I didn’t want to put her in a weird position and I didn't have the strength to look for another place to eat, so I started to eat the food, then I decided to take I bite of the meat, hopefully that will add to my motivation to finish the food. As I put the meat in my mouth it was cold, not like frozen code but normal code because she couldn’t bother to heat the meat with the food. Not only was the meat cold, but it was STRONG, I couldn’t cut it with my teeth, so I kept the meat back and continued eating the rice.

 

After I was done with the rice, I decided to face the hardened meat and show it who the boss was, I tried my best to chew the meat as a whole, but it was too strong, so I made the dangerous decision to swallow the meat and the meat got stuck in my throat; couldn’t go down to my stomach or come back out. I started to panic because it was so uncomfortable and my eyes started tearing up, I suddenly couldn’t breathe properly. I tried coughing out the meat, but it didn’t move, tried swallowing harder, still didn’t move, and even tried punching my throat hard, the stubborn meat still didn’t move. I then started to panic because this was not going to be my end. The young lady was there staring at me scared and didn’t know what to do, it was just the 2 of us in there and she was too stunned to go and call for help as I was still struggling. So I decided to keep punching and trying to cough hard and after like 5 hard coughs, the meat came back out and I released a heavy and lasting sigh.

 

I sat back down, wasn’t thinking about anything but was grateful to God that the whole situation didn’t go the other way. I still paid in full but resolved that I was going to learn to speak up when necessary and not care if I’m not going to be labeled a nice person. The situation could’ve been avoided had I made my concerns known immediately after I noticed the food wasn’t fresh. I decided that day not to let being nice stop me from demanding good service anywhere I find myself. I will find a polite way to say it but best believe I won’t be shutting up going forward. If I have to send something back, I will. This was a situation where I thought being seen as a nice person was more important than my life and I will never let myself be in that position ever again.



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