Hi, I'm Sam,
I remember reading the novel "Two to Tango" in secondary school and if I'm being honest, the book didn't really make sense to me and with a little research, I found out that tango was a type of dance but one thing I took away from that book was "it takes two to tango". If you see someone dancing alone, tango won't come to mind because you'd need two persons to tango. As I got older, one other thing I realized was that as much as it takes two persons to tango, they need to work in agreement and unison, if not they will end up stepping on toes and ultimately injuring one another. There won't be anything like disagreement if agreement wasn't expected, Its easy to get into war of words when agreement is treated carelessly or neglected.
When you make peace with the fact that all people can do is either agree or disagree with you, then you can start living your life. As easy as this sounds, it's something so many people battle with, myself included. There was a point in my life I translated disagreements to mean hatred or disdain towards me or to simply mean I was not smart because how can you like me and disagree with me? I was younger then and I was pretty sheltered to the point everyone around me liked me and I didn't need anything from people who weren't around me so their opinion never really mattered to me. That was my reality until I left the nest and went to the university, I realized that there was so much I had zero knowledge of. That was my starting point of discontinuing the notion that one can know it all. I had to learn how to be teachable and open minded to listen and learn any chance I get.
Whenever I hear Miscommunication one thing always comes to my mind and it's the difficulty or failure to communicate your ideas or intentions clearly but I've also come to realize that it is very possible for you to communicate your ideas, instructions or intentions as clearly as humanly possible and you will still be misunderstood. When an agreement is made, there are expectations and its not unfair to have expectations because when the agreements were made, terms were set and when one party decides to act as if nothing was said, it's possible to get internally gaslit that any reactions you have towards the situations seems irrational and unwarranted.
Balance of trust is one of the best ways to see relationships no matter what type of relationship it may be, to picture it as scale which is not always expected to be an state of equilibrium. Some days or in some situations one person may carry more load or give less and that is totally fine and acceptable, so long as there is understanding from both parties. Just like tango is built on precise movement and trust, to move in sync and harmony, you have to know exactly when to lean on someone else and when to catch someone.
Anything not said to me remains unsaid, I'm at a point in my life that I'm not going to respond to your body language especially when you're not a close friend or family. Most times I can read and understand body languages but I choose not to respond to it because there's a chance I didn't read it right and I end up making a complete fool of myself and when I read and don't respond, I can confidently deny not knowing anything because really nothing was said to me. Unspoken resolve is a level of intimacy I do not aspire to have with just anyone.
Ultimately, "it takes two to tango" is a celebration of collaboration, no man is an island and as such you are going to have to work with someone. It reminds me that the most meaningful connections and achievements in life are created through collective effort. Whether in dance or in life, the beauty of the tango lies in the way two individuals move together, each contributing their unique rhythm to create something magical and entertaining.
When you make peace with the fact that all people can do is either agree or disagree with you, then you can start living your life. As easy as this sounds, it's something so many people battle with, myself included. There was a point in my life I translated disagreements to mean hatred or disdain towards me or to simply mean I was not smart because how can you like me and disagree with me? I was younger then and I was pretty sheltered to the point everyone around me liked me and I didn't need anything from people who weren't around me so their opinion never really mattered to me. That was my reality until I left the nest and went to the university, I realized that there was so much I had zero knowledge of. That was my starting point of discontinuing the notion that one can know it all. I had to learn how to be teachable and open minded to listen and learn any chance I get.
Whenever I hear Miscommunication one thing always comes to my mind and it's the difficulty or failure to communicate your ideas or intentions clearly but I've also come to realize that it is very possible for you to communicate your ideas, instructions or intentions as clearly as humanly possible and you will still be misunderstood. When an agreement is made, there are expectations and its not unfair to have expectations because when the agreements were made, terms were set and when one party decides to act as if nothing was said, it's possible to get internally gaslit that any reactions you have towards the situations seems irrational and unwarranted.
Balance of trust is one of the best ways to see relationships no matter what type of relationship it may be, to picture it as scale which is not always expected to be an state of equilibrium. Some days or in some situations one person may carry more load or give less and that is totally fine and acceptable, so long as there is understanding from both parties. Just like tango is built on precise movement and trust, to move in sync and harmony, you have to know exactly when to lean on someone else and when to catch someone.
Anything not said to me remains unsaid, I'm at a point in my life that I'm not going to respond to your body language especially when you're not a close friend or family. Most times I can read and understand body languages but I choose not to respond to it because there's a chance I didn't read it right and I end up making a complete fool of myself and when I read and don't respond, I can confidently deny not knowing anything because really nothing was said to me. Unspoken resolve is a level of intimacy I do not aspire to have with just anyone.
Ultimately, "it takes two to tango" is a celebration of collaboration, no man is an island and as such you are going to have to work with someone. It reminds me that the most meaningful connections and achievements in life are created through collective effort. Whether in dance or in life, the beauty of the tango lies in the way two individuals move together, each contributing their unique rhythm to create something magical and entertaining.
