Hi, I'm Sam,
As the resident overthinker, I am here to say that someone who has zero business with overthinking can fall victim to overthinking when it comes to making the best first impression. The chances of falling victim to overthinking becomes a tad bit higher If you are someone who has knowledge of how you're perceived by people from afar, you can try to not prove those people right especially when the perception is completely wrong and negative but truly everyone gets only one chance at making a first impression but I do not think first impressions are as important as we tend to make them out to be because it turns non overthinkers to overthinkers amongst other things. First impressions will always go the way they're meant to no matter how much we try to weave it to be. Some can see through the act to see and love the real Indentity without help. The first impression will end up meaningless if the thought of curating the perfect person for the moment was the thought at the fore front of the mind instead of being the true self. The true self saves everyone time and energy to act and pretend to receive what isn't there from the beginning. Relationships that was considered to be for a long time turn sour because the desire to be what isn't was raging and had enough oxygen to burn until it didn't.
I've been lucky to make first impressions virtually, it could be over a call, text or even by going through my online profile and the impressions people get of me are always to my advantage because they always describe or associate me with things that I love which helps reduce the nerves when I meet people in person. The truth is that in the beginning I can completely act like anyone would expect and I don't do that intentionally, it just happens. People tell me their perception of me after my actions has somehow confirmed what they already thought, the only difference is I might be slightly better than they thought. I love to impress but not at the first chance, I take every opportunity to impress but not in pretence, the slightest feeling and need to pretend around anyone gives me the sign to run. It immediately points to me that I do not have any reason to give or receive energy from there. Whatever I give or get from pretence will always be intangible, it will scare me because it becomes my way of building castles in the sky and expecting the building to stand when the breeze blows and the truth is that the breeze will blow, in the pretence I might delay the breeze but every aspect of the connection will come crashing down when the breeze eventually blows because it won't be "if" the breeze will blow but "when" it will blow.
It is already a thing that I can be different versions of my real self depending on who is around me for a moment. I want to be babied around certain people, a warrior around some, smart around some, quiet or loud around some and yes i can never be one thing, I can be my authentic self in different ways without a fiber of presence making it harder than it is for me to desire happiness, strive for it and bask in it and try to make it last as long as it can. Just like my mum, I desire that the things that can genuinely make me a happy young man be within reach, things that I don't need to work too hard to get but intentional to keep and maintain.
The nerves that can come from making a great first impression can possibly be traced to the identification that life is made up of important moments that the hope of the alignment of those moments give meaning to the life we live. With a route mapped out, things to do, people to meet, things to say, how and when to say them will give substance to those moments that the wrong move can send chills down the spine and not in a good way, but in a way that the feeling of drawbacks starts to creep in. Then comes the restrategizing, because this person I thought was a key piece in my substantial life didn't say or act in accordance to the script I had written in private. The pressure to make the perfect first impression screams begging, and only proves that there is a perception of the other person that needs me to play a certain role to be an easy pill to swallow for the other person. My perception of the other person might be wrong which means that whatever persona I've designed to make the perfect first impression might be wrong as well. The factors for the design didn't come from what I know but from things I thought I knew, and when the raw materials to make something is wrong, the outcome will also be wrong.
I cherish my aura of Familiarity and trust so much because it can disarm anyone and make them comfortable around me. It then seems pointless to pretend, to act or speak a certain way and that could be attributed to the fact that I do not need anyone to impress me nor do I feel like I need to impress anyone, you'd be surprised how relaxed and simple life can be when you do not feel the incessant need to impress people. The knowledge that even if I have a future rapport with this person or not, the certain thing is that the first impression is genuine in every aspect. You're not giving too much outside of yourself to make it through the moment and that genuineness can be truly captivating.
I've been lucky to make first impressions virtually, it could be over a call, text or even by going through my online profile and the impressions people get of me are always to my advantage because they always describe or associate me with things that I love which helps reduce the nerves when I meet people in person. The truth is that in the beginning I can completely act like anyone would expect and I don't do that intentionally, it just happens. People tell me their perception of me after my actions has somehow confirmed what they already thought, the only difference is I might be slightly better than they thought. I love to impress but not at the first chance, I take every opportunity to impress but not in pretence, the slightest feeling and need to pretend around anyone gives me the sign to run. It immediately points to me that I do not have any reason to give or receive energy from there. Whatever I give or get from pretence will always be intangible, it will scare me because it becomes my way of building castles in the sky and expecting the building to stand when the breeze blows and the truth is that the breeze will blow, in the pretence I might delay the breeze but every aspect of the connection will come crashing down when the breeze eventually blows because it won't be "if" the breeze will blow but "when" it will blow.
It is already a thing that I can be different versions of my real self depending on who is around me for a moment. I want to be babied around certain people, a warrior around some, smart around some, quiet or loud around some and yes i can never be one thing, I can be my authentic self in different ways without a fiber of presence making it harder than it is for me to desire happiness, strive for it and bask in it and try to make it last as long as it can. Just like my mum, I desire that the things that can genuinely make me a happy young man be within reach, things that I don't need to work too hard to get but intentional to keep and maintain.
The nerves that can come from making a great first impression can possibly be traced to the identification that life is made up of important moments that the hope of the alignment of those moments give meaning to the life we live. With a route mapped out, things to do, people to meet, things to say, how and when to say them will give substance to those moments that the wrong move can send chills down the spine and not in a good way, but in a way that the feeling of drawbacks starts to creep in. Then comes the restrategizing, because this person I thought was a key piece in my substantial life didn't say or act in accordance to the script I had written in private. The pressure to make the perfect first impression screams begging, and only proves that there is a perception of the other person that needs me to play a certain role to be an easy pill to swallow for the other person. My perception of the other person might be wrong which means that whatever persona I've designed to make the perfect first impression might be wrong as well. The factors for the design didn't come from what I know but from things I thought I knew, and when the raw materials to make something is wrong, the outcome will also be wrong.
I cherish my aura of Familiarity and trust so much because it can disarm anyone and make them comfortable around me. It then seems pointless to pretend, to act or speak a certain way and that could be attributed to the fact that I do not need anyone to impress me nor do I feel like I need to impress anyone, you'd be surprised how relaxed and simple life can be when you do not feel the incessant need to impress people. The knowledge that even if I have a future rapport with this person or not, the certain thing is that the first impression is genuine in every aspect. You're not giving too much outside of yourself to make it through the moment and that genuineness can be truly captivating.