THE IP MAG

Hi, I'm Sam,  The wonderful thing about connection is that its not premeditated, you don't plan out how to get connected to someone. You can play by your rules and do things a certain way to create connections with someone and the truth is that if the connection is there, you'll know and when it's not there, there's absolutely nothing you can do to get it. Another thing can be that you're looking for the connection from the wrong angle. Its ok to have the desire to connect with someone from one angle, but when that angle doesn't work, you can either try another angle or let it go completely. Before I was chosen, someone looked at me and assessed me based on a list of requirements or was fascinated by what made me unique. Something that wasn't easily identified in someone else as it is identified in me made me stand out and something that otherwise made someone else unattractive, made me attractive in a way I probably wouldn't be able to ...

Hi, I'm Sam,  Some people say they want to perform on a level playing field, all the external and internal factors should be the same for everyone. No one should have an upper hand, but I have always wanted to know what makes the playing field level for everyone. The plain fact that not everyone wants the same thing has already made the playing field seem uneven. The desire not to want so much out of life might make it seem like someone has it easier than someone who wants so much of everything out of life, the desire not to stress for so much places your comfort and acceptance level lower than that of someone who wants everything possible. No one is better than the other, the only important thing is that you're doing exactly what you desire. I always wondered how older people are so ok with getting old and living happily, then I realized that the same way that I have no desire to relive my teenage years and focused on getting better everyday and enjoying each day ...

Hi, I'm Sam,  I remember reading the novel "Two to Tango" in secondary school and if I'm being honest, the book didn't really make sense to me and with a little research, I found out that tango was a type of dance but one thing I took away from that book was "it takes two to tango". If you see someone dancing alone, tango won't come to mind because you'd need two persons to tango. As I got older, one other thing I realized was that as much as it takes two persons to tango, they need to work in agreement and unison, if not they will end up stepping on toes and ultimately injuring one another. There won't be anything like disagreement if agreement wasn't expected, Its easy to get into war of words when agreement is treated carelessly or neglected. When you make peace with the fact that all people can do is either agree or disagree with you, then you can start living your life. As easy as this sounds, it's something so many ...

Hi, I'm Sam,  Some may argue that the expectation of something makes the emotions less intense, which is probably the reason why so many people will admit that they love surprises, because they have no other choice but to react in the most genuine way possible for them. It is a fact and I know that the sun sets every single day in my region, at this point it is something I expect to happen but I don't look out for it, I only take note when it delays or probably doesn't happen which I have never experienced. Because I expect it to happen, I'm no longer fascinated by it. One of the hills I will gladly die on is that, there's no right or wrong way to grieve. There's no manual to it, you only react to the exact way you feel and depending on your emotional strength, you can suppress some emotions and control your actions. In several cases, no one plans for death, so all you have to do is react to it. You don't get to pick when and who it happens to, so you'r...

Hi, I'm Sam,  I don't announce it every 3 business days but I'm a Homebody. This was something I found particularly hard to accept because I was the liveliest kid in my family and everyone just concluded I was an extrovert. I changed when I was about 15 or 16 and by 18 my sister concluded that I was either depressed or battling with inferiority complex and I thought about it for a few days and immediately accepted that as the logical explanation to what was happening to me. I accepted that logic because I really loved how lively and outgoing I was growing up and I desperately wanted to go back to that, so if I know the problem, maybe I can find a solution and get my old self back. One of the most annoying things with people pointing out something about you is that when they do, whether they're just being plain mean or critiquing objectively, most times, you're bound to see what they're saying and then the battle within starts. The battle where you t...