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I READ THE DARK ROOM

Hi, I'm Sam, 

There's a piece of advice that we hear that is not our own but is also our own. It comes from within and we do have the creative freedom to call it whatever we want. Our spiritual inclination actually helps us decide what to or what not to call it but we all experience that advice or suggestion. Asides the creative naming, another thing we have is the ultimate decision to listen to it or not, act as we've heard or completely ignore it or act on the modified version. It is very possible to have this instant regret when we do not listen and act on the suggestion because we can not see the long term effect and it is also possible to see the consequences of ignoring that suggestion in the long run.

My innate desire to always listen to that voice didn't just come over me suddenly because I felt like listening to something, but after I've had the experiences and seen the outcome of listening and not listening, I didn't think I needed anymore convincing to pay attention and act accordingly. When you know something or someone has your best interest as a priority, you don't act or ask questions from the angle of doubt or mistrust.

A kind and warm acceptance or interaction with a situation or someone acts like a boomerang that even when you don't intend, it comes back to you, and the way your warm acceptance comes back to you makes you ponder about the cause of the effect. The ponder is always genuine, and almost in a confused manner because you are genuinely curious and want to give yourself an answer for peace of mind and to promote such good causes that most times return with a good effect. The effect is usually not immediate and it comes when you have zero clue as to what the cause might have been, but the routine of your life could give you a hint if you pay close attention and if you're curious enough.

Just because something is urgent doesn't mean it's important, what you consider as a priority in a scale of preference says so much about you, it let's a smart person know exactly how to relate with you. The personal point gives me the grace to determine what is urgent and important to me, I get to put as much or less value on whatever I desire and what I find important can equally become important to someone else who gets it eventually but because we share that importance for the same thing does not in any way reduce or increase the importance for me.

My ability to always listen and pay attention to these suggestions has really helped me read the dark room. I tend to act the right way even without having enough information or seeing everything that should guide my actions. I am fascinated by the outcome of situations when I listen and act and I just wonder how things would've turned out if I didn't act on what I heard. Most times depending on my mood and how much time I spend thinking about it, I always try to rationalize why I had to act the way I did which was in my best interest because how do I explain to someone that I acted a certain way because a voice in my head told me to. Some people get it when I say it but the quiet voice still let's me know who to tell and who to rationalize my actions to. I love when I can anticipate that something will cause problem and do my best to stop prevent it. Sometimes the problem is avoided so well that I wonder if my actions helped and or was it insignificant and maybe I shouldn't have bothered at all.

Some days I am an overthinker and some days I can be a "I will cross the bridge when I get to it" kind of person and it depends on what's on ground so I decide the better approach for it because there are things you really have to have planned out a while in advance and there are things that no matter how much you anticipate them, they still somehow take you by surprise and you just have to react to them even though you do not have a plan mapped out.



 

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Samuel Chukwu
Abuja, FCT, Nigeria
Hi, I'm Sam, (IG & X @samychukz) The IP Mag is my lifestyle blog where i get to express my thoughts aloud in an effort to inspire and motivate my readers through insightful articles, personal stories and discussions rooted in value and beliefs. I hope to foster a sense of community and growth while providing a platform for reflection and motivation.

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