Hi, I'm Sam,
I asked my best friend for ideas on how to live and he said "Enjoy Everyday and Every moment" and now I am trying to find a way to put that into everyday for the next 365 days. I told him the advice sounds so simple and straightforward and for the first few moments after he sent that message I tried not to overthink it but how will I create a content calendar for myself for the next 365 days without breaking it down to make sense and use it to plan ahead. In that planning and analyzing, there is every chance that I might begin to overthink and end up feeling overwhelmed that I make a mess of a simple advice given with the purest of intentions and expected to be carried out in the simplest way possible.
Sometimes the problem is not with what we have to do but how we decide to approach what we have to do. Our individual lives and experiences aid in figuring out how to approach what we have to do. You might decide to jump into it thinking so much about it and you get half way and hook, I might decide to take my time and think about it and still get hooked half way. Sometimes thinking and breaking bigger things into smaller pieces may not work like we think it would and sometimes breaking bigger chunks into smaller pieces can be where we find clarity and go farther and there's an option to take the leap of faith and take things gradually, as you break, you move and correct any misteps as fast as the misteps are made. Taking this into consideration, I know that someone who may have gotten the same words of advice like I did might approach it from a different angle than I would and that does not make me wrong and the other person right or vice versa. It just means that we are unique and whichever way anyone of us decides to take, we just have to stick with it and ride it out while having at the back of our minds that we have the power to change our mind and course-correct if things aren't working out with our initial strategy.
Some realizations hit harder when you're not taking time to think and make them make sense. I have finally decided to live on my terms, identifying things that I've never really liked but because society categorized them as things we should like, I tried to tell myself that I like them as well. At this point, confessing my love for something when i actually don't does absolutely nothing for me. Now it feels as though I have to tell myself the honest truth about things I love and things I don't, things I'd love to tolerate and things and tones that are unacceptable. Ways I will go about and do things and ways that I would not be caught dead going. This realization was slower than I thought, I enjoyed the confessions before and tried to balance it out but I guess we all get to the point where we do things not because we're trying to make a drastic change but we know we've been seeing patterns with everything around, quietly nudging us and telling us to try something another way and now even though the conviction is not as loud as it was before, now we find ourselves effortlessly compelled to do things that feels completely right to our inner and outter selves.
I think accountability is so easy when you do things your own way and it turns out to be everything you thought the outcome would be. It adds a feather to your self reliance and trust rank. For me I begin to honor every thought that goes through my mind because I have tangible reason to believe that my thoughts can be acted out and ultimately give an expected result. At this point, I do not want to entertain failure or the thoughts that things can go south even when I think them through and build so much confidence around it. It's the reality but I would rather focus on the scenarios where the things I've fought for materializes exactly the way I want them to and for the days that things do not go my way, I take the lessons, dust myself off and keep moving ahead ahead.
