Hi, I'm Sam,
I think to get to the extreme is to not think at all. Nobody gets to the extreme while following a plan, it’s always by impulse and not by a well crafted plan. I always pictured a scenario in my head whenever I am met with greedy traders. So anytime I go to buy anything, I always have an idea of how much something would cost but in most cases I try to know how much something will cost before I go to purchase it. That way I don’t have to haggle because i have that exact amount or something close to it. I don’t like the idea of haggling because i feel that people should be honest enough to put a reasonable price on something, enough to cover the cost price and make a profit but then real life has shown me that some traders do not care about honesty in business and as such will over price their product and they will still get people who would buy it at that over priced amount. Because of my hatred for haggling and my practice of finding out the price of something before I purchase, it is very easy for me to figure out who and who decides to be dishonest and with a pent up anger about that, I paint a terrible scenario in my head of how I think I should behave to make a point and teach the dishonest trader a lesson.
Tangent: I’ve never really considered the best way to correct a bad behavior, whether by actions or by words. Often times it may feel as though words could fall on hard grounds and ultimately feel like a waste of words in something that an action could’ve made all the difference. But with different scenarios, different approaches can be employed.
So I picture myself in the market maybe to purchase a denim trouser or whatever but in this virtual reality it’s a clothing item that I go to purchase. With prior knowledge of what that item should cost, I head to the market with that amount or something a little above it only for the trader to double the amount I already confirmed on. I know that the trader knows that I know the price of this item but this trader calls this outrageous amount in hopes that I would haggle and maybe end up purchasing the item close to his exaggerated amount. Because I dislike haggling, I would simply walk away and go over to the store preferably opposite this traders store, hoping that the trader opposite is a better person and would give me the correct amount. And when this trader does, I would pay for the clothing item use it to clean the floor and trash it in the presence of the first trader to prove that purchasing the item wasn’t a problem and that the main problem in the market at that point was his greed.
This scenario has never played out because it’s a terrible plan because it doesn’t benefit anyone except the trader I patronize who is not in anyway the subject of the issue at hand. With that action I don’t point out the greediness of the first trader and all I’ve achieved on my part was wastage; of my time, money and the material. All I’ve ever done was to excuse myself from unnecessarily greedy traders nothing more but I feel like with constant contact with those kinds of people, my intrusive thoughts might win someday and I’ll do something senseless and extreme.
Like I mentioned earlier, no one plans for the extreme. You might be hurt but the extreme action taken without thinking it through will sting worse and look like too much of a reaction compared to what you’re reacting to. It’s easy to look at it as a way to teach someone else a lesson but in the end, the loudest lesson is learnt by you. It’s also easy to think that it’s the only option because it’s always a spur of the moment thing like a road rage which brings regret almost immediately as the action takes place. The regret is there to help you relive the terrible moment and you’re left with enough time to wish on the stars for a chance to go back in time to act in a different and identity why you shouldn’t have done what you just did. Extreme actions will never benefit anyone. It might end up teaching you a valuable lesson that you will probably never forget but at the detriment of something tangible and in some cases irreversible.
