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PERMIT ME TO LIVE VICARIOUSLY THROUGH YOU

 Hi, I’m Sam,

 


I want to thank the official and unofficial content creators who take pride, care, and joy in capturing and sharing moments on social media. It’s one thing to capture moments either for personal use or public consumption or for both and it’s another thing to share it. My perfect evening is lying on a soft bed or sofa in a very unusual but very comfortable position scrolling through Instagram or X and Tiktok (I'm still trying to get used to tiktok though) and taking in all the funny, beautiful, educational content on social media and honestly scrolling through social media might seem like a waste of time for a lot of people but it helps me be creative and fine-tune my creative ideas.

 

 I think there are different ways we can choose to look at life; some may believe that life is slow for them because they've not gotten to the stage where they would like to do certain things but unfortunately, they can't do those things, other might think that life is moving too fast for them and they have a thousand and one things on their list to do or achieve before a certain age. But the reality for both scenarios is that life is moving, people are living life whether or not you're living yours. One thing you must know and remind yourself all the time is that you must not live your life the way someone else is living theirs and knowing this will grant you peace of mind. Some might think that life is moving fast for them because of how they see their "age mate" living their lives or what they see their age mate have been able to achieve but sometimes we might forget that we're all on very different journeys and lanes in life.

 

 I am very particular about the social media accounts I follow and interact with. I'm not an influencer so I don't need to follow you so that you can follow me back. I follow accounts that I love to see their content or an alternative way to interact with people close to me and share information. The accounts I follow have to meet certain criteria, its either you're making me laugh, inspiring me, educating me, keeping me on my toes in a good way or you're just fun to look at, it just has to be something.

 

 Indulge me, allow me to live vicariously through you, permit me to travel the world through your eyes, take me into your friend group hangouts, give me a tour of your city or job or apartment, let me attend a party with you through my phone, help me unlearn certain things and learn new things, make me laugh even when my day may not be anything to laugh about. As much as I can see social media as an escape, it’s also my reality because it helps with my creativity and gets new ideas into my head.  My mood actually isn't dependent on social media and I am certainly not addicted to it which is why I can appreciate it and focus on the positive side of social media.



I have accounts I look out for their posts because it helps me fight some things that I might be dealing with. For instance, I have a discomfort with group hangouts but I have a friend who loves the idea of group hangouts and I guess it’s his way of keeping up with all of his friends at once as life has other plans and keeps everyone busy. I noticed that as I consume his content on group hangouts, my discomfort towards group hangouts reduces because I feel as though I have a guideline as to how to act in a group hangout or what to expect in a group hangout. I know it's never going to be the same, at the very least I need to have enough friends to form a group of friends. Thinking about it now, I think the discomfort I have towards group hangouts may be a result of a lack of familiarity because of the group hangouts I've experienced, I end up not knowing anyone there or maybe just 1 person out of let's say eight or ten persons. I think group hangouts would be easier if I knew at least 50 to 80 percent of the people involved.

 

Whenever I scroll through social media and I find out that it’s not doing anything for me in a good way, I immediately log out because that is not the reason why I have social media. I can’t go online just to have my mood and spirit dampened. Anything I get myself involved in that won’t make me feel better is a capital “NO” for me and I will not apologize for distancing myself from those things. Once again, THANK YOU for sharing and bringing us into your world. We love and appreciate you!



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