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Hi, I'm Sam,  A lot of people I've come across often quote "Curiosity killed the Cat" for the tiniest excuse to get out of answering a personal question or any question at all they'd rather not answer. I always respond "but I am not a cat" and they always laugh but I will still push to get an answer to my question. Is that me prying ? I don't know but I still wanna know. I don't want to know because I want to tell the next available ear or use the information to keep my seat at the table of those who "know" things about people. I want to know because I want to learn from your experience, I want to conduct myself and act appropriately around you. I will want to know as little as possible if you're a stranger to me and my curse for as far back as I can remember is that people find my easily trustworthy. I love it because it makes people very comfortable around me which makes me comfortable but I hate it because it makes pe...

Hi, I'm Sam, Nothing is truly the end of something, where one thing stops, another begins and who doesn't love a new beginning. Yes, new beginnings can be nerve racking, the uncertainty making your heart beat so loudly that you wonder if the carefree teenager sitting next to you on the plane can hear it and ask you what's wrong and you try to act all cool like nothing is wrong and truthfully there's nothing wrong but something in you is trying to scare and convince you into thinking that something might be wrong. You've done everything humanly possible to analyze the end of something to better prepare yourself for what is to come, trying to ease yourself into the new normal but as a human, you can only prepare to an extent but whatever that will happen will definitely happen and this end might be premeditated or simply coincidental, but the scary thing is that there is always more and the good thing too is that there is always something more. In so many...

  Hi, I’m Sam, I need to find a new thinking position, cross-legged in the dim light seems like a better position to think, laid back, and observing life. Some things happen or repeat themselves and you know this requires serious analysis. Why did this happen? What triggered it? What didn't trigger it? Will it happen again? If it does happen again, what should I do? What is the best way to react? Should I be scared? A deep, sincere analysis will answer all these questions and more. Some days I observe life, on other days I comment on it, sometimes I act on it, sometimes I react but most times I ignore it. There's really no point crying over spilled milk, either I belittle myself and use my bread to soak it up from the floor or wash it off, but I will have to do something. The point of my thinking is not to get rid of the peace in my life, but to ponder enough to take things that happened as seriously as I should.   One of my favorite things to do is daydream, that is my ...

Hi, I'm Sam,  I can wholeheartedly say now that I know what willing consistency looks like; I completely agree that it is something that has to be experienced and not explained. I had to stay consistent in this, and a lot of fears, deep fears that I had stepping into this have completely disappeared, although new fears spring up, not anything I can't handle. It's one thing to be consistent in something and completely another thing to be consistent willingly. The thing with the second one is that you may not necessarily have any material thing to gain while soaking your feet in the pool of consistency, but you just keep going because you know that there's something to gain at that point in time, even if you can't explain it to someone else.  In the course of my consistent work on this blog for the past year, I realized that I wasn't doing it on my own, and it gave me a confirmation that this is my purpose; I am not idle, and I refuse to be idle. Somet...

  Hi, I’m Sam, I am likely an over-thinker but so far it hasn't been in a bad way at all, I think I should find another word to describe it but for now let's use "over-thinker", if anything it helps me keep myself and my interactions with people safe, direct, and moving. I always have intentions behind everything I do, sometimes I may not be proud of the intentions but it’s always honest and something I want to do and not what I'm being pushed into doing in any way. At times the intentions behind my actions may not be entirely very good, but it’s always honest and based on the information I have and what I think is best at that particular time. I don't have a cheating bone in my body, my actions may show that I want to put myself first but never to make someone else feel bad or cheated but of course, I can only act a certain way no matter what my intentions maybe but I can't choose how someone else reacts as a result of my actions.    Just like any o...

  Hi, I’m Sam, It may seem as though saying "Be consistent" is one of the basic requirements for becoming a motivational speaker. That is a phrase used so much by official as well as unofficial motivational speakers. And as watered down as it may seem, that is one thing everyone needs to hold dear to their heart and always remember while doing anything. It's been said so much that it may sound like it has no value but consistency really is everything. Consistency will help put your foot into rooms you didn't even know existed let alone knock on. Inconsistency is like a disease you get on your own, you fight it and overcome it all alone. It is a battle you cannot enlist anyone to help you with when you're not ready to face it head-on. While dealing with inconsistencies, you will stumble and fall and you will have two options, pity yourself, whine, and stay down, or get up and keep going. Sometimes the cheers from outsiders are audible enough to encourage you, som...

  Hi, I’m Sam, Each decision we make, no matter how serious or irrelevant we may think it is ultimately impacts the course of our lives. I like to think that we're our choices irrespective of the reason behind the decisions. Sometimes we make certain choices without thinking and that is a result of a history of making similar choices. The direction of our lives is altered or improved by our choices in various areas of our lives, so have it at the back of your mind that every decision matters big time.   Mornings are usually vibrant, with so many different choices, no matter how insignificant or major they may be. There's always a fresh feeling attached to mornings, like an opportunity to make things fresh and new. So many choices are attached to mornings, whether to have a slow or rushed morning, and each decision is like planting a seed for how the day will go. Some people have decided not to ever joke with their morning decisions.   I think it's both liberatin...

  Hi, I’m Sam,   Where memories blend into soft edges, and time slows down just long enough for me to marinate myself in the moments that once meant so much to me and ultimately framed me. It’s a period where the past becomes more vivid than the present, and I can give a lot to spend as much time as possible there, in a place that seems to feel very familiar and so peaceful. In this place, everything feels just right as if nothing truly fades, and I find comfort in the echoes of what once was.   My favorite thing to do is sitting alone, listening to music playing in my ear, the bass almost vibrating my brain, and then taking myself back to past moments. My trip down memory lane can be just memories or a blend of memories and daydreaming to make it even more interesting.   Another favorite thing I love to do is scrolling through my gallery to relive moments. There is a very indescribable feeling you get when you start scrolling from the present to day...

  Hi, I’m Sam,   It's intriguing living life in retrospect and it’s also an eye-opener for me. It is very easy for me to gloss over moments as they happen and it happens to someone like me who tries as much as possible to live in the moment. I love sitting alone, listening to music playing in my ear, the bass almost vibrating my brain, and then taking myself back to past moments I may have overlooked. And the weird thing is that the moments I go back to almost always have nothing to do with what is happening around me in the present.     Sometimes I try to think back to little prideful moments around me and I ask myself what little things am I proud of. I always end up listing things as little as being about to finish 2 or more chapters of a book despite having a chaotic day that the old me would rather use as an excuse not to read, or stay hydrated, I even had to buy myself a big water bottle to help me always achieve my goal of staying hydrated or keeping m...

  Hi, I’m Sam   I am not the first, do I even want to be the first? I don't think I have given the idea of being the first an actual thought, it is always an in-passing thing for me. It feels good to be the first but I don't think being the first is what motivates me to keep doing anything. Should it even be enough motivation to do anything? That should be the correct question. I believe it can be one of the reasons to keep at something but if it’s the only or major reason, the motivation cannot be sustained.    I am the last baby in the house, so I am very much used to learning from people ahead of me. I still make my own mistakes but I try as much as possible not to repeat any mistake someone close and older than me made, that would be dumb actually. I have always thought that being surrounded by older people would shield me from making mistakes, but that would have been likely if there was always one wrong way to do something or one right way to do things....

  Hi, I’m Sam ,   I want to thank the official and unofficial content creators who take pride, care, and joy in capturing and sharing moments on social media. It’s one thing to capture moments either for personal use or public consumption or for both and it’s another thing to share it. My perfect evening is lying on a soft bed or sofa in a very unusual but very comfortable position scrolling through Instagram or X and Tiktok (I'm still trying to get used to tiktok though) and taking in all the funny, beautiful, educational content on social media and honestly scrolling through social media might seem like a waste of time for a lot of people but it helps me be creative and fine-tune my creative ideas.    I think there are different ways we can choose to look at life; some may believe that life is slow for them because they've not gotten to the stage where they would like to do certain things but unfortunately, they can't do those things, other might think that...

Hi, I’m Sam , When it comes to opening up to people, I follow my instincts to trust so easily and I've never been burnt from that which is why I think I still do it. I don't think there is anything about or in my life at this moment that at least 2 persons are unaware of. My circle is pretty tight but not everyone in my circle knows absolutely everything. I don't open up to anyone in my circle with any atom of fear of lack of confidentiality. I think one of the reasons why I tend to overshare is because I want to hold myself and be held accountable for whatever I say.  If I share a plan, I want to be held responsible to make sure I work hard enough to achieve whatever it is I say. Telling someone for me means putting it out into the universe and won't be able to lie and say I never wanted to do that or never said such a thing.   I have always had this intense fear and discomfort with sharing anything about me especially my thoughts on the internet. It took a lot of ...

Hi, I’m Sam If you read my previous post you will know that I am very uncomfortable being the center of attention ( Read here ) but I saw this as an opportunity to try to work on myself and get comfortable at receiving compliments and it really did work.

  Hi, I’m Sam,   We count it all joy and a blessing when we wake up each morning, and each morning comes with the absolute undiluted feeling of a new beginning, a fresh and can-do spirit. As the days continue, knowingly or unknowingly we are open to creating and maintaining relationships with people in different areas of our lives; it may be our neighbors, a familiar taxi man, an attendant or owner of the store we frequent, our colleagues, the roadside seller who tries to convince us to buy what we clearly do not need, our relatives, etc. The chances of increasing the closeness or distance we might have with any of these people increases with each day we come in contact with them and as such we unknowingly decide what extent we can go for them. We can be having a not-so-good morning and still choose to politely decline to buy what we clearly do not need no matter how persuasive the seller might be, we just unconsciously decide what extent to go not to ruin the relationship...

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  Hi, I’m Sam,   "I am one with my body, spirit and soul and I am attentive to my being" Paying rapt attention is very important in everything we do. A lot of us have mastered the art of paying attention to a lot of things except for ourselves. It doesn't take so much to pay attention to our bodies and feelings but at the same time, it’s not also an easy thing to do.  

  Hi, I’m Sam, Read Part 1 For someone whose coping mechanism is to suppress emotion, I didn’t know any other way and never thought any other thing would work for me. As I tried to tie up some loose ends I kept having the urge to find answers to how I was feeling but how did I think I would be able to find the answers if I didn’t unpack and try to make sense of my feelings? Somehow I really felt like unpacking for me was a sign of weakness and bitching and I didn’t want to come off that way to anyone, most especially to myself.  

Hi, I’m Sam, Every living thing is made up of something tangible. Humans are made up of things outside our biological makeup. Our knowledge, learnings, desires, wishes, surroundings, and experiences. As a result of all these, no two humans are completely the same and as such cannot understand another person even if you experience the same thing.  

Hi, I'm Sam, We are living in an era of multiple eras happening all at once. We have so much to do and achieve that sometimes it’s ok to be selfish with your time but we still need to be intentional in coming through for the real ones in our lives whenever they need us because the truth is, we will also need them from time to time. Putting someone first or being intentional with someone in your life only works when you're in their top 5. You can waste care, love, genuine intentions, and sacrifice on someone who has no regard and probably won't do the same for you if the role or tables were turned. This is not promoting the attitude of being good or doing things because of what we stand to gain but the intuition to know where to plant and nurture to stay away from wasted efforts